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Getting Help

You were never meant to do this alone

Becoming a parent is one of life's biggest transitions. While it can bring immense joy, it can also feel overwhelming, exhausting and, at times, lonely.

Whether you're looking for reassurance, practical advice or specialist support, please remember that you don't have to struggle alone. Asking for help is one of the strongest things you can do for yourself and your family.

When should I seek help?

Please speak to someone if:

  • You're feeling persistently low, anxious or overwhelmed.

  • Your mood isn't improving or is getting worse.

  • You're finding it difficult to enjoy things you usually would.

  • You're struggling to bond with your baby.

  • You're finding it difficult to care for yourself or your baby.

  • Friends or family have noticed changes in your mood or behaviour.

  • You simply don't feel like yourself.

You don't need to wait until things feel severe. Reaching out early often makes the biggest difference.

Who can help?

Support may come from a variety of people and services, including:

  • Your midwife (during pregnancy and shortly after birth)

  • Your health visitor

  • Your GP

  • Your local Perinatal Mental Health Team

  • Your Infant Feeding Team (if feeding difficulties are affecting your wellbeing)

  • Family and friends

  • Local parent and baby groups

  • Counsellors or therapists

Remember, accepting support isn't a sign of weakness—it's an important part of looking after yourself and your baby.

If you're in crisis

If you're having thoughts of harming yourself or someone else, or feel unable to keep yourself or your baby safe, seek urgent help immediately.

You can:

  • Call 999 if there is immediate danger.

  • Contact NHS 111 for urgent mental health support.

  • Attend your nearest Emergency Department.

  • Tell someone you trust how you're feeling so they can help you access support.

You deserve immediate help, and you won't be judged for asking.

Trusted organisations

APNI (Association for Post-Natal Illness)

One of the UK's longest-established perinatal mental health charities. APNI offers evidence-based information, peer support from trained volunteers with lived experience, and resources for mothers, partners and families affected by postnatal depression.

Website: https://apni.org

PANDAS Foundation

PANDAS (Pre and Postnatal Depression Advice and Support) provides free support for anyone experiencing perinatal mental illness. They offer helpline services, WhatsApp support, online communities and peer support.

Website: https://pandasfoundation.org.uk

Maternal Mental Health Alliance

Provides trusted information about maternal mental health conditions, local services and support available across the UK, as well as campaigns to improve access to specialist care.

Website: https://maternalmentalhealthalliance.org

Tommy's

Offers evidence-based information on emotional wellbeing during pregnancy and after birth, alongside practical advice and support for families.

Website: https://www.tommys.org

Mind

A national mental health charity offering information on depression, anxiety and other mental health conditions, plus guidance on accessing support and looking after your wellbeing.

Website: https://www.mind.org.uk

NHS Every Mind Matters

Provides practical tips, self-help resources and expert advice to support your mental wellbeing.

Website: https://www.nhs.uk/every-mind-matters

Home-Start UK

A family support charity offering practical and emotional support to parents with young children through local volunteer networks.

Website: https://www.home-start.org.uk

A gentle reminder

You were never meant to do this alone.

Every parent needs support at times, and asking for help is not a sign that you've failed—it's a sign that you're looking after yourself as well as your baby. With the right support, recovery is possible, and you don't have to face it on your own.