Partners' Mental Health

Looking after everyone in the family

Having a baby changes life for everyone.

Partners can also experience anxiety, depression and emotional difficulties during pregnancy and after birth.

In fact, around 1 in 10 fathers and non-birthing partners experience postnatal depression, although many don't seek help.

Why does it happen?

Partners may be coping with:

• Sleep deprivation

• Financial pressures

• Changes in identity

• Supporting both mum and baby

• Feeling unsure of their role

• Worrying about "being strong"

Signs to look out for

Partners may experience:

• Low mood

• Increased anxiety

• Irritability or anger

• Withdrawing from family

• Feeling overwhelmed

• Changes in sleep or appetite

• Using alcohol or work to cope

How can partners look after themselves?

• Talk openly

• Accept support

• Make time for rest

• Spend time outside

• Stay connected with friends and family

• Seek professional help if things don't improve

Further support for partners

If you're finding parenthood more difficult than you expected, you're not alone. There are organisations dedicated to supporting fathers, co-parents and non-birthing partners through pregnancy and the postnatal period.

PANDAS Foundation

PANDAS (Pre and Postnatal Depression Advice and Support) offers free support for anyone affected by perinatal mental illness, including partners. They provide telephone support, email support, online communities and local peer support groups.

Website:https://pandasfoundation.org.uk

APNI (Association for Post-Natal Illness)

APNI provides information and support for anyone affected by postnatal illness, including partners and family members. They offer a helpline, peer support from volunteers with lived experience, and practical information about paternal and partner postnatal depression.

Website: https://apni.org

Dad Matters

Dad Matters supports fathers with their mental wellbeing, confidence and transition into parenthood through local services and online resources.

Website:https://dadmatters.org.uk

A gentle reminder

Partners don't have to "stay strong" all the time.

Looking after your own wellbeing isn't selfish—it helps you to better support your baby, your partner and yourself.